I spend a ton of time on Reddit. I frequent a lot of popular subreddits, but one that i’ve started to visit more and more often is /r/selfimprovement/. It’s exactly what it sounds like it is. A ton of strangers with question and answers on how to be a better person.
Just yesterday user bcbrought96 started a thread called ” TL;DR: How to be An Attractive Man” – most of the advice is take from Adam Kisiel’s book How to be More Attractive and while there are some pieces of advice that are a bit strange ( don’t watch porn, groom your eyebrows once a week) there are a ton that i think are pretty solid advice. I’ve picked out some that i think are the best below, but you can check out the entire thread here
- Be honest about your hair. If it’s receding, don’t try to hide it. If you’re balding, just go for a buzz-cut or the full shave. If it’s thinning and you’re not ready to let it go, keep it short. Embrace who you is. (My own interjection, but if you’re male and can afford it, opt for a barbershop rather than a salon. Barbers make a living cutting men’s hair.)
- Get in the habit of walking with a straight back. You can do this by strengthening the muscles in your back (pull-ups with wide and pronated grip are a good one for this) and by reminding yourself to straighten your back throughout the day.
- Travel. Get out and see whatever it is you can see. Let your scope expand to your budget. If money is tight, become a local expert on cool places near you.
- Be self-confident. Even if you’re just faking it (because everybody else likely is too.) Smile, relax, and keep your composure.
- Stop thinking negatively all the time. You’re going to fail in life. Probably a lot. That’s just probability, but that’s also the cost of success.
- Wear clothes with fit. This is the single most important principle in the area of clothing. Try on clothes before you buy them. Pants should stay in place without a belt and should brush against your shoes. Shirts and jackets should fit well on the shoulders and as narrow in the waist as is possible without reducing comfort.
- Don’t wear sandals with socks. Just… don’t (PREACH)
- Learn how to cook. Obviously you can never completely “learn how to cook”, but take the time to learn a few basic skills that will allow you to throw some meals together. When around others who are familiar with cooking, watch them as they do it and ask them questions about it.
- Clean your home once a week. A pleasant looking home makes you feel a lot better and look a lot better. Also helps in case of an unexpected guest.